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We have the same issue with my mother, she has heart troubles, keeps falling and has been hospitalized nearly a dozen times in the last year. She then spends time in a rehab facility and when she feels better comes back home, rinse and repeat.Two years ago my 91 (at the time) Dad living in Winterhaven Florida wanted to move into a senior living facility. Me and my brother went down to help,with decision making. Ultimately he decided that he was going to stay home until he dropped. Fine and dandy if you actually drop, but what happens if you move into the realm of needed assisted living?
Two years later, once again he is thinking about moving to senior living. He wants to but gets overwhelmed at the prospect and then regresses just wanting to stay home... more to come.
They said medically she should not be living alone and the fact that she won't let any of us help her has soured some of our relationships, my sister has flat out cut her off from all communications and they were always tight. The fact that my mom needs so much help from the family that lives near her is simply too much as she leans so heavily them, in some ways it's selfish because it demands a lot of their time.
On a personal note, if she wants to live at home and pass away on her own terms I think that's her right. I will always maintain my relationship with her either way. On the other hand some of these senior living centers have great options and FT care if/when you need it and I would love to see her go that route but in the end it's really her call. She's sacrificing a lot to live on her own, it's all pretty sad.